How the “Two-Do Matrix” changed my productivity and improved my work-life balance

A few months ago, I took my first 45-day sabbatical.

It was my first long pause from work in 10 years.

(The last time was my 4-month backpacking honeymoon through Southeast Asia with Jon.)

After coming back from my sabbatical, I realized something:

My to-do list was rigged. 

Before my sabbatical, I was checking things off constantly. But I felt like I was failing at the things that actually mattered.

I’d clear my inbox… then realize I hadn’t moved my body in a week.

I’d reply to every ping… then feel guilty for missing another bedtime with the kids.

I’d check off a dozen tasks… but forget to plan that long-overdue date night with Jon.

Sure, I was productive. But I wasn’t really living.

The Problem

Most to-do lists reward urgency, not importance.

They push us to do the things that feel productive (email, errands, admin)…

…while quietly burying the things that actually matter (rest, connection, joy).

Most of us aren’t actually bad at productivity. We’re just using the wrong system.

The Big Small Thing

Last week, I finished reading my friend Amanda Goetz’s new book Toxic Grit.

It’s packed with practical tools for ambitious people who want to succeed without burning out.

One of my favorite takeaways? The “Two-Do Matrix.”

Instead of one overwhelming to-do list, Amanda suggests choosing 2 priorities for each major role you play in your life.

That’s it.

Six meaningful things per day.

Why this works:

Why this works:

• It’s realistic (6 meaningful things vs. 20 random tasks)
• It prevents work from hijacking your entire day
• It forces you to be strategic about your personal life

This was my “Two-Do Matrix” yesterday:

I got all 6 done. And I felt way more accomplished than I do after crossing off 15 random tasks.

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How This Helps You Get What You Want

If you’re constantly busy but still feel like you’re failing at what matters most… your to-do list might be the problem.

Try the “Two-Do Matrix” for one week.

Each night, take 5 minutes to pick your 6 priorities for tomorrow.

You’ll spend less time reacting — and more time living.